How I Began My Journey to Self-Love

Loving on myself!

Sis, let's talk.

Starting over after a breakup—especially after investing your heart, your time, and your energy into it for years—is like walking through unfamiliar terrain with no map. I know, because I've done it. Three years ago, I had to start from scratch, and girl, I was terrified. I had no idea who I was outside of that relationship. I had invested so much time in someone else that I didn't know how to invest in myself.

But let's get real: starting over is not the end, it's your rebirth.

Grieve, But Don't Get Stuck

At first, I did what we all do—we replay every memory, analyze every choice, and let the grief take over. And you know what? That's fine. Have your emotions, sis. Weep if you need to. But make me this promise—you won't stay there. Since the best version of you is on the opposite side of this heartbreak.

Fall in love with YOU again

I woke up one morning, looked in the mirror, and thought, Who is this woman? Not the woman I used to be, and not the woman I was trying to become. That's when it hit me—it was time to get reacquainted with myself. I started to ask:

What do I love?

What makes me feel beautiful?

What kind of life do I want to design?

I started to take myself out on coffee dates, resume old hobbies, and create a vision board for my future.

Treat Self-Care Like Your Life Depends on It (Because It Does)

I had spent so much time on someone else's needs that I forgot to look after myself. That came to an end fairly quickly. I started taking "Me Days"—bubble baths, silk robes, lazy mornings with my favorite coffee. Not because I needed to try to impress someone else, though, but because I deserved to feel wonderful. And sis, so do you.

Open Your Heart (But Not Just to Anyone)

When I was finally healed, I realized something deep—I wasn't looking for someone to make me whole anymore. I was whole. And that's when I knew I would never settle again.

If you're starting over, I want you to hear this: you are not broken. You are becoming. Your future is waiting, and I promise—it's more beautiful than you can imagine.

Drop a comment if you’re on this journey too. Let’s heal and glow together.

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